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The "Iโ€™ll Be Happy When..." Trap (And Why Your Brain Is Lying to You)

Ever caught yourself saying, "Iโ€™ll finally relax when..."?

Spoiler alert: You hit the milestone, pop the champagne, and then your brain immediately scans the room for the next thing to stress about. Welcome to the Arrival Fallacyโ€”the psychological illusion that reaching a specific goal unlocks permanent bliss.

In reality, we expect an eternal sunset, but we just get a four-minute dopamine spike followed by a new task list. As a therapist, I'm diving into why your brain runs this outdated survival software, and how to stop holding your happiness hostage until you reach an imaginary finish line.

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